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Are you exhausted from doing it all yourself?

31 Oct 2012 | Business Life, Personal Productivity

There’s a saying that really riles me.

“If it is to be, it’s up to me.”

I know, I know. It’s meant to be empowering. To take action. Take responsibility. Take the reigns and be in charge of your own life.

But. Too often it gets interpreted as

“Do it yourself. You’re on your own.”

  • When you’re faced with challenges.
  • When stuff doesn’t work.
  • When you’re overwhelmed.
  • When you have too many ideas… or not enough.
  • When you can’t see the wood for the trees.
  • When you’ve lost your mojo.
  • When you’re feeling cr*p.
  • When you’re beating yourself up.
  • When you can’t remember your name, let alone what you’re trying to achieve.
  • When you’re racing round like a headless chicken.
  • When you’re stuck.

Don’t ask for help. Don’t collaborate. Don’t phone a friend. Go figure. It’s up to you.

Yes I know it’s up to you to take action. To take your own baby steps and big leaps of faith. To stretch outside your comfort zone. To grow. To be the change you want to see in your world.

Self-sufficiency is a wonderful thing. But I prefer resourcefulness.

Being resourceful means:

  • You don’t have to do it all yourself.
  • You don’t have to be good at everything.
  • You have full permission to be brilliant at some things and hopeless at others.
  • You can choose what you put your energy into.
  • You know who you are – and who you are not – and you’re ok with that.
  • You’re not superwoman – and that’s good thing.
  • You ask for help.
  • You learn from others.
  • You build a superstar support team around you.
  • You work with people who bring out the best in you.

“No one can whistle a symphony. It takes an orchestra to play it.” – H. E. Luccock

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  1. Naomi Richards

    Yes it is up to you. That can be pretty scary for some.

    • Grace Marshall

      I think it’s pretty scary for everyone Naomi. My point is, it’s not up to you to do it all alone. That – in my opinion – is a big fat lie.

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