Saying no is like a muscle. You get stronger with practice.
If you know you could use some practice, here are three supporting ideas, curated from Twitter for you.
The No folder
This is brilliant because often the immediate pain of saying no overshadows the long term gain. Collecting up your ’no’s helps you to recognise your progress and reinforce your decisions. When you look back and realise you don’t regret any of those ‘missed opportunities’, your future self really will thank you for it.
The No buddy / committee
A comment further down the thread also refers to this as the No committee. We often find it easier to say other people’s no’s for them. So as well as celebrating & affirming each other, we can also go to our “no” committee for help and encouragement.
I’m always grateful when one of my colleagues upholds a boundary with a client where I might be tempted to waver.
Other ideas in this thread included the ‘No’ calendar, and having a ‘No’ quotient – along the principle of “what gets measured gets done”
But finally, here’s one that a contact privately messaged to me:
The #DNR tag
If you didn’t manage to say no the first time round, this one makes sure you don’t fall into the same trap if comes round again!
Which of these would you use? And what would you add?